When planning a wedding, it is rarely “The Big Things” that people find to be their struggle. Finding things like a facility and a DJ and a caterer are all elements that are so important, but once they are done, they’re done. But the small things – all the little details – are what can really give people headaches. The lists roll through your mind at night and keep you up, invading your dreams and making you feel overwhelmed. We speak with Brides each day who are having this “detail dilemma.”
We get it – the details are what make your big day unique, and we love them! The colors, the favors, the flowers, the linens, the lighting…all the little touches that make your ideas come to life. Run with that, but make sure to not run so far that you can’t cross that finish line (read: walk down the aisle…because that is the idea here, right?!). Here are some tips to help you quit sweating the small stuff:
1. Make a list. Make two or three. Have a whole book of lists! There are apps on your smart phone that will help you, or break out a good old-fashioned pen and legal pad. List making will help you get it out of your brain and down onto paper. Who knows, maybe once you see it there in front of you, it won’t seem so insurmountable? List making can also help you prioritize. Ask yourself which details are most important – especially if you are dealing with time or financial constraints.
2. Create a timeline. Your own timeline. Ditch the magazine timeline that has you really sweating by the time you are done reading. Figure out what you need to do, and how much time you have, and then line it all out. Make sure you get things done early enough that the week of your wedding isn’t spent tying bows on favors and folding programs. Be sure to include important payments dates, etc.
3. Enlist some help. Come to us first. We can help with SO MUCH – it is our pleasure to take as much off of your plate as you will allow us. And then after that, whatever we are unable to assist you with, round-up those cousins and neighbors and pre-teens that have been begging to help. Only allow people who will actually make you feel less stressed – steer clear of folks that will call you at midnight panicking (you have your own middle of the night panicking to handle!) or will be panic attack prone on the wedding day. Ask those you trust to handle these important tasks. *One of the common mistakes our brides will make is rounding up their crew before coming to us, you do not need a clean up crew or someone to set up your favors, etc…we have that covered.*
4. Organize and Label. Putting finished products in boxes can help you feel a world better. Start boxing up all the ceremony items and decor (silk petals, unity candle or sand, guest book and pen, etc) and then label those boxes – it will save you a step in the long run. Then do the same for the reception items. If you are providing your own centerpieces for us to set up, take a picture of what you are wanting and tape it to the top of the boxes with the centerpiece items. Just seeing that pile of boxes and storage containers all stacked up will make you feel like you can start checking things off those checklists.
5. Schedule a time to come in and speak with one of our coordinators. If any of these items seems too stressful – scrap it and just come see us. We can help you make lists and timelines. When it gets much closer to your wedding here, we can even help you start stacking those boxes on our wall and not your living room’s!
6. Keep it all in perspective. Remember, as amazing and fun as all the little details are, this day is about you marrying your best friend. At the end of the day, that is the only detail that truly matters.
Here are some amazing details from some recent weddings here at Ashland Gardens and The Gardens: